• WackyTabbacy42069OP
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      I so feel this. Whenever someone has a smart niche, whether it’s just reading a lot or being skilled at something like maths, they become sooo much more attractive to me

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      Yep, even if someone doesn’t know something it’s perfect if they’re open to learning more :)

      They don’t have to be interested in every topic, it’s the openness that goes a long way

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    Passion for something. It′s such a turnoff when you are talking to somebody and they aren’t interested in anything.

    Current events? Meh. Books? Meh. Films/Shows? Meh.

    I don’t care if it’s stamp collecting or chewing gum flavors or the history of wallpaper design, just be passionate or interested in something. At least we can converse for while on that topic.

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      Adlib examples for pretending to have a personality, perfect for the passionless husk of a human soul in your life!

      Hey hey hey listen listen listen. Let ME, tell YOU, about the wonders of [[ psyllium husk supplements ]]. THIS SHIT!? IT IS SO FREAKING [[ full of fiber ]] AND JUST THE MOST AMAZINGLY [[ potentially constipation inducing ]] thing ever. So pretty much everybody knows that [[ psyllium husk supplements ]] is good for [[ the gut microbiome ]] right? But what most people DON’T know is that [[ quality varies between brands ]] and that [[ you should research brand quality ]]. Isn’t that just just freaking great!?

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        Lol! Everything in moderation I suppose. But at least if I had that interaction with somebody, I would have an interesting story to tell people haha.

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      It’s from China. Wallpaper I mean.

      Yes I looked it up. Your joke made me cry.

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    To borrow the new age term, an old soul.

    There are just people who possess a sort of cynically detached understanding of the world and people. They aren’t fired by largely pointless passion or desire, they’re intelligent and perceptive enough to generally understand things and emotionally mature enough to generally accept them and they have a way of just sort of gliding through life, maintaining a relatively even keel instead of getting distracted and disconcerted by irrelevancies.

    Every single person I’ve ever known who was like that has been or is special to me.

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    Having an interest in sharing something with you without making you feel stupid about it.

    Went to about art museum with a guy, and he was super excited to tell me about certain pieces and artists and their history. He was very kind when I asked questions about things that were probably very obvious to a more studious person.

    Was on his arm by the end of the date. Absolutely smitten!

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    Empathy and I can’t find a single word to describe it but being able to understand and recognize other sides of opinions or arguments/debates, respectfully of course