Do, you sleep with your bedroom door open or closed and why?

    • Matt Shatt@lemmy.worldEnglish
      20·
      10 months ago

      This right here. As a firefighter I’ve seen it. Also nowadays if the door is open I can’t sleep…I just keep opening my eyes and seeing that open door…

      • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
        9·
        10 months ago

        Alright, so here’s the deal.

        I don’t like the setup of my house, but it is what it is. My kids room door is at a 90 degree angle to ours. I’ve always wanted to install and practice an escape since we’re on the second floor, but my ex wife had a problem with that (go figure). When I manage to get her out of my house, how do I go about retraining my kid with this? He absolutely refuses to sleep with the door shut, even with one of us in the room, and if he wakes up with it shut, it’s bloody murder.

        Her logic (that’d I have been overridden on) is that I am literally 4 steps away from his bed in an emergency, and I could leap in, close the door and escape through that window. Mind you I’m 207 227(edit, she cheated on me again and I caught her on 06/05, probably caused the weight gain) lbs and deathly afraid of fire.

        What I want to do is install one of the fire escape ladders that rolled through the window and practice going down that with my kid before working on getting him to close the door at night.

        Is there an order I should do these things? Like door first, then escape? Or escape first, then door?

        • nondescript_citizen@lemmy.fmhy.net
          4·
          10 months ago

          Did you even click the link provided? It provides some pretty good reasons with examples and a video demonstration of why it’s so important. I don’t know anything about your ex wife or what your living situation is, but maybe show it to her not as an “I’m right you’re wrong” thing but as a genuine safety of your kid thing.

          As for your child screaming bloody murder, there comes a time when you need to realize you’re the parent and they’re the child. For obvious reasons they are not equipped to make decisions regarding their own safety, which is why they’re supposed to have you. Sit down with and have a conversation with them Mr. Roger’s-style (meaning don’t treat them like they’re an idiot), maybe try and make a game out of it. If they still scream then honestly too bad, let them cry it out. You don’t have debates with your child about if they can stick a fork in an outlet or not do you?

          • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
            3·
            10 months ago

            I don’t debate shit when it comes to safety with my kid. To be honest, it isn’t even a doubt in my mind that his door should be shut. It’s his mother. But I think you (intentionally or not) may have said exactly the way I need to go about this:

            It’s about his safety. Not her sleep. a few bad nights of sleep is worth it (to me at least).

        • ddh@lemmy.sdf.org
          2·
          10 months ago

          First step IMHO is to understand what problem your kid is solving by having the door open.

  • It's Maddie!@sh.itjust.works
    68·
    10 months ago

    Door open. My kitty sleeps in bed with me and she likes to come and go in the night, she’d wake me up if the door was closed!

  • 0xED@lemm.eeEnglish
    55·
    10 months ago

    Closed because many years ago a firefighter gave a fire safety talk at our elementary school. He told us to keep the door closed at night since it can give you an extra 30 minutes to escape in a fire. For some reason this advice stuck with me…

    • fadhl3y@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      10 months ago

      Likewise, if my door was closed the kitties would scratch from the outside and make a nuisance of themselves.

      • CeruleanRuin@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        10 months ago

        Gotta train them that doing that doesn’t get them the outcome they want. I make it a policy with my cats that if they wake me up, they get yeeted to the basement.

        When they were new, that meant picking them up and carrying them to the laundry room and closing the door. It evolved to me simply carrying them to the top of the stairs and setting them on the top step, and now all I have to do is open the door when they scratch or yowl and they scatter. It took a while, but now they only bother me at night when there’s another cat in the yard and they want to get to my window to look out.

      • Sunstream@lemmy.worldEnglish
        30·
        10 months ago

        It sure is; here’s a video demonstrating the effectiveness. Shutting your door can mean the difference between life and death. I encourage anyone to watch or re-watch this, just to hammer it home.

        Unfortunately, my cats can’t deal with shut doors, so if there’s ever a fire in my apartment, at least we’ll all go together 🙃

      • moobythegoldensock@geddit.social
        16·
        10 months ago

        Using thermal imaging cameras, researchers found that closed-door rooms on both floors during the fire’s spread had average temperatures of less than 100 degrees Fahrenheit versus 1000+ degrees in the open-door rooms. “You could see a markable difference that a person could be alive in a room with a closed door much longer,” says Kerber.

        Gas concentrations were markedly different as well. The open-door bedroom measured an extremely toxic 10,000 PPM CO (parts per million of Carbon Monoxide), while the closed had approximately 100 PPM CO.

        https://fsri.org/programs/close-before-you-doze

      • moobythegoldensock@geddit.social
        2·
        10 months ago

        In that case, keeping the doors and windows shut will give you the best chance of survival, because there will be less oxygen flow and thus a slower burn.

        You’ll need to call in a fire emergency, lie low on the ground, and try to use a rag/shirt/towel to filter some of the smoke while you wait to be rescued. You still might die, but at least this way you have a chance.

  • GBU_28@lemm.eeEnglish
    24·
    10 months ago

    Closed. Even a simple hollow core door can offer 30 minutes or more of protection from smoke and indirect fire. More time for alarms to go off and get to safety.

    • Pulptastic@midwest.socialEnglish
      14·
      10 months ago

      Fire protection 101. Closed bedroom doors, interconnected smoke alarms so when one goes off they all go off, and at least two exits per room.

      We have fire ladders in the upstairs rooms and, most importantly, we’ve done drills so we know how to use them.

      • corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
        9·
        10 months ago

        we’ve done drills so we know how to use them.

        Had a house fire in '88. You’re a fucking hero on that with actually practicing. We were dumb but super lucky as we just lost everything and noone.

      • GBU_28@lemm.eeEnglish
        3·
        10 months ago

        Sometimes, a perfectly terrible fire (in a perfectly unlucky layout of a house) could emit toxic gases / smoke in sufficient quantities to impair you, potentially to the point of not being able to react to the alarm. At that point you may not escape.

  • tarjeezy@lemmy.caEnglish
    23·
    10 months ago

    Closed. If there’s a fire in the other parts of your house, you’ll have more time to be alerted and escape.

  • packardgoose@lemmy.ml
    22·
    10 months ago

    Closed. Damn cat. She’s not looking to snuggle into bed. She wants to wake you up. Why? Who knows.

      • Botree@lemmy.world
        3·
        10 months ago

        nods I used to sleep with the door shut and locked, and the home alarm on whenever I was out. That’s no longer true ever since the queen demanded that I do neither.

    • CeruleanRuin@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      I’m the opposite. I like it when the cat curls up on my feet, but I’m not a fan of just letting them stalk through the house and jump around freely when I’m trying to flipping sleep.

      They can’t not do that, so they get shut out. And I taught them early on that if they yowl and scratch at the door on the middle of the night, they’re just gonna get launched down the stairs.

      Cats only get to be the boss if you let them. They absolutely can be trained to not be total tyrants.

  • ewe@lemmy.world
    18·
    10 months ago

    Open, so that the air that gets pumped into my room can tell the Mr. Thermostat in the hall that it’s actually fine in there and they don’t need to call Mr. Furnace or Mrs. A/C.