Ideally something you can do with the same people every week so you get to know each other.
Rock climbing isn’t my thing, but I helped out today taking some pictures at one and wow… there are a lot of people at those. People need belayers and it just had a generally friendly atmosphere. Plus you get exercise. If I was in need of friends and liked rock climbing, I’d definitely be going there more often.
I have bouldered for a few years and will agree with the friendly atmosphere.
The closest gym is farther away than I want to drive regularly, but Rick climbing gyms always have the most friendly, chill people.
Gangbang
This can mean two very different activities, lol.
Imagine showing up dressed for the wrong one!
I dunno, I feel like a gimp suit is multipurpose.
Just add a bandana of the appropriate color and done.
They’re called handkerchiefs 😉 but yes. What’s your hankie? I’m more of a light blue with dark blue polka dots. 🥵
Board games at a local game store. Many will have a board game night.
Tagging onto this: there’s tons of games to play that have regular tournaments. I run Warhammer 40k tournaments for my local store, and while you occasionally get tryhards that are less fun, the overwhelming majority of the community just feels like a bunch of people getting together to play plastic soldiers for a day. The new Disney game Lorcana is taking off, and there’s tons of different tabletop games besides just board games to try at a local store!
Many have card games too. My local game store has both open Pokemon TCG and Magic free play nights weekly, and tournaments occasionally. They also gave me a lot of free cards and helped me in improving my deck. And this wasn’t only the employees, but other players.
They also have open DnD games they run twice a week. They give you a character sheet and help you build yours, then run a game for a couple hours. Not sure, but I bet this is more rare because you have to have a good DM who is willing to help new players, run or sometimes create a campaign, and who knows how to help players get to the end when time is limited. (DnD people don’t roast me if I’m wrong, I’m not a frequent player.)
Adjacent to this is: check your local library. Ours has regular board game nights and RPG nights. I’m pretty sure they aren’t actually organized by the library itself, but they use the space and the library lists them on their website and advertises the nights on the board out front.
Hmm. Might need to check out a local game store.
As well as game stores and libraries, board game associations have meetups.
We have 5 or more clubs around town. Anywhere from 20-50 people at an event, smart interesting people generally.
Whatever interests you. You probably won’t make any friends forcing yourself to go to events and gatherings for things that don’t interest you
That’s true, but I may be interested in things that I wouldn’t think of by myself that they exist.
Take a class in something random that interests you. Talk to the people in the class.
Suggestions:
- glass blowing
- cooking
- leather
makingworking - pottery
- painting
- scuba diving
Side bonus is maybe you discover a new hobby that brings you joy.
The other ones sound reasonable, except the last. It seems like a big jump. Don’t get me wrong, scuba diving is fun. I’d say go for a lesson and see if you want to continue, it may not be for you. It can also get expensive.
Not much chatting during scuba either.
I’ve met a ton of friends scuba diving, that’s why I included it.
Sure you can’t talk while you’re diving, but that makes the conversation between dives more interesting. Lots of people passionately comparing and talking about what they saw. You’re probably stuck on a boat together during your surface interval, so naturally you get to know people.
Also sometimes it’s nice to just do an activity without people talking constantly.
Leather making sounds interesting. Take the hide, process it. Tanning? Not sure. Gruesome and a rewarding final result.
They probably meant leather working / crafting like making wallets and stuff.
Yeah I did
If there is something you’re passionate about, then going to events that are about that. Usually it’s easier to make friends when you have something in common that you’re both passionate about.
Take some sort of hobby class. Painting, woodworking, etc. Join a club of something that interests you. Play in a pool league.
Being social. Go to bars or cafés. Engage in conversation. Insert yourself tactfully when you hear someone talking about a thing you like or know about.
Also, be aware but not overly sensitive if people don’t want to continue talking to you. Be friendly, but not obnoxious. Stay cognizant of social clues.
If you’re into history, HEMA (Historical European Martial Arts), medieval reenactment and SCA are all very approachable and friendly people. They are not cheap hobbies though.
Alternatively, board game nights and Dungeons & Dragons are cheaper and also lits of fun. Check your local board games store
Do you play an instrument? Do you want to? Musicians are super friendly and welcoming, if that interests you.
am go to community garden
Mountain biking. Especially if you have a local organization for trail management. They’re almost always looking for volunteers.
You’ll have the biking, being active outdoors, some hiking for trail management, typically some fund raising events, bike maintenance/repair workshops, community rides and potentially more depending on the size of the group.
Good variety of activity from solo riding to big social gatherings. And I’ve found it a much more chill group of people than road bikers. And it doesn’t really require the super expensive $2k+ bikes some people opt for. My current ride is at about $700 all in and does everything I need it to do.
Team sports. Play weekly then go out for food/drinks together after.
I can confirm that the 2hr badminton then 1 hr Dim Sum combo is enjoyable!
Sports is always great, one easy option in case people aren’t to keen on running around: Disc golf is easy, cheap, and every one can play.
Couch or online video games…you can go with party games like Jack box or Co-op stuff
I haven’t found any I’ve been successful at, but the closest I’ve come is going to the movie theater.
Indeed, what better way to get to know someone than to sit next to them for 2.5 hours in silence
There’s also the intermission periods, you know. Have you never struck a conversation before a movie, before the second act, or while in line to get snacks or tickets? Also, some movie theaters allow talking during the movie if it’s one of those smalltown theaters that plays movies from a century ago.
I’ve never once been to a movie that had an intermission in 25 years. And no, it’s mostly small talk and then the show starts
In all the movies in all the movie theaters I’ve been to, every movie always starts out with a commercial prelude to the movie, when all the lights are on and there’s nothing important to interrupt. I’m not saying any conversation of note happens during that time, just that it’s the closest I’ve come to genuine platonic success.
