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      I was raised by some of the most abusive people on the planet - enough to be jailed today - and surrounded exclusively by abusive peers.

      I’m sorry. Have you considered that they are perhaps not representative of the whole of humanity?

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          Furthermore, people compulsively fight and kill anyone who isn’t exactly like them

          Citation needed. How is there any diversity at all in the world? Not everyone is exactly the same.

          The only people who don’t think any person is representative of the whole of humanity are white supremacists.

          A sample size of one or a few is never totally representative of billions. Do you think everyone in the world is exactly like Greta Thunberg? People have a huge variety of values and personalities, you can’t boil everyone down to a charcuterie of the particular people you grew up with.

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              Uh, every fucking genocide? Read a history book.

              You’re taking about all of humanity, not just people who have committed genocide. Not everyone on earth has committed genocide.

              My sample size is in the thousands - more than that if you include everyone who has participated in a genocide. Even more if you include every bigot.

              Are you only including bad people in your sample? Obviously that would end up skewing the sample towards people being bad. Have you heard of the term representative sample in statistics? That’s how I’m using it.

              The problem - confirmed by my therapists - is that there were exactly zero samples of anyone contrasting.

              I’m sorry you haven’t met any non terrible people. I’ve met plenty. I hope you can meet some more people to change that.

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      You’re talking at me, lying to me and trying to dictate reality to me.

      Let’s say someone actually wanted to help you. Let’s say they truly believed that going outside and interacting with people in person would do you good. How should such a person express their feelings and try to help while acknowledging you, respecting your humanity, and treating you as of equal value as a human?

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      Are you happy?

      It seems like you are lashing out randomly and have a world view that everything is orchestrated to harm you.

      You all made sure no one would ever care about me, even going so far as to kill yourselves to guarantee it.

      You believe that people have killed themselves to make your life worse? I don’t want to sound mean, but you aren’t the only person.

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          Happiness is not the goal - it’s the failure state. Happiness means I’ve become an abusive monster, like you.

          That’s a wild take man. Like what are you talking about? Can you tell me exactly what I’ve done to be an “abusive monster”? Could you elaborate on how happiness is only the result of being abusive?

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              I’m going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don’t believe that’s a unique perspective.

              I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

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                  It is common to develop a drug or alcohol addiction as part of a coping mechanism. That can absolutely make your life more difficult. Coping mechanisms can make it more difficult to make changes that will better your life.

                  The path of least resistance isn’t always the easiest path.