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Cake day: October 22nd, 2023

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  • You didn’t say, “can’t be”, thats why I said it’s like you said that.

    We didnt call it, “incel” 100 years ago when someone acted like an incel. If someone was making jokes and promoting a mindset at the time that would now be labeled “incel”, then we can retroactively say the ideology they promoted fits our current label.

    I am in the same conversation, and I hear what you’re saying. I don’t think you sincerely understood what I was saying the first time.








  • I really hope I say this without sounding rude. People who look pretty or attractive by society’s standards put a lot of effort into their appearance. It’s a lot to maintain your skin, hair, strength, weight, etc.

    I’m sure you put effort in, I’m not trying to discount that. I do think there are some things you could be doing to help feminize your appearance however.

    • Getting your eyebrows shaped can be a game changer.
    • Adding eyeliner or changing your approach to it can help a lot also.
    • You have gorgeous hair with great volume. I love how it is now, but sometimes a change in hairstyle helps us change how we see ourselves.
    • You may not believe this, but your face shape reads feminine to me. That being said, the effects of HRT may become more prominent if the fat could redistribute again with some weight loss/gain.

    The disappointing thing is that most of those things I just mentioned won’t change, or will change very little from HRT. I hope you can find support and encouragement to do what makes you happy. All I mean to say is that you may need to explore some options in addition to things you are already doing. It is not hopeless!