https://imgur.com/a/6JkRV6X

I’ve been on HRT for 3 years, and I really have lost all hope that I will ever look like a girl or be gendered correctly or even just be treated with dignity. I’m really ugly and honestly I can tell, people lie and say well it’s your personality that matters. It’s really not that hard to see, and I am wondering if there is a point to spending 120 dollars a month, just for peace of mind.

  • Kayday@lemmy.world
    18·
    1 month ago

    I really hope I say this without sounding rude. People who look pretty or attractive by society’s standards put a lot of effort into their appearance. It’s a lot to maintain your skin, hair, strength, weight, etc.

    I’m sure you put effort in, I’m not trying to discount that. I do think there are some things you could be doing to help feminize your appearance however.

    • Getting your eyebrows shaped can be a game changer.
    • Adding eyeliner or changing your approach to it can help a lot also.
    • You have gorgeous hair with great volume. I love how it is now, but sometimes a change in hairstyle helps us change how we see ourselves.
    • You may not believe this, but your face shape reads feminine to me. That being said, the effects of HRT may become more prominent if the fat could redistribute again with some weight loss/gain.

    The disappointing thing is that most of those things I just mentioned won’t change, or will change very little from HRT. I hope you can find support and encouragement to do what makes you happy. All I mean to say is that you may need to explore some options in addition to things you are already doing. It is not hopeless!