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    Figuring out chronic illnesses. If you’ve got something other than the “basics” like diabetes or arthritis, it’s a shitshow that can take years, a dozen or more doctors, tens of thousands of dollars, and endless medical tests.

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      “Are you sure you’re not making it up”

      The medical system is not kind, my diagnosis was all of 5 minutes and almost definitely wrong. That was after fighting with my GP to get a referral to the right specialist…

      I reckon the worst part of a chronic illness is when you don’t realise it’s abnormal, I just assumed everyone else was just as tired and sore as me.

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      Agreed. I’ve spent like half my life on this stuff, and nowadays medical stuff is practically all I do.

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    Not me, but my friend. Had a relationship with a girl he met in an MMORPG.The girl was still living with her ex-husband and had not divorced yet. And she lived in another country across the ocean. The couple were doing therapy. My friend had hopes this would be his chance at love. How could I be a downer when he was in love.

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        I once got into an argument on Facebook about whether it was morally correct for the US to drop the atomic bombs on Japan in WW2.

        I don’t know why I wasted my time.

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          I’ve learned that you can’t convince some people. For me I go there to educate about transit use now to them, I view it more as community outreach than social media lol. Some will just regurgitate fox news at you.

          Others, though, and I’ll say the majority even, are misinformed and haven’t heard the other side before. They are genuinely curious, there may be an initial comment or two of regurgitation but I’ve found that patience and kindness is something they don’t expect, and they’ll open up once they realize you aren’t there to argue.

          Usually I start with the Socrates method, just ask why they think that. Usually more regurgitation, maybe with some random stuff that has nothing to do with the original point. So I ask a more targeted why, and that’s when we start actually having a dialog. Usually I won’t get them to change their mind, but just learning that they can have an open conversation with a demmycrat will change their views a bit. They’re so entrenched in their echo chamber they don’t know who we are

          Then there are people who are just genuinely asking questions, which I’ll jump on before some hate monger does. Things like “I’d try transit but idk how it’s so confusing”. I’ll sit with them and explain how things work and how they might try it the first time

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    Not me, but… Friends husband is dating his step sister. That’s become pretty complicated.

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        Me too, questions like “Did they share the same house prior to the beginning of their relationship?” and “Has he ever found her stuck under a bed?”

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          Became step siblings as children 30ish years ago. Didn’t live together - just holidays, summers, etc. "Reconnected’ recently. Family is…conflicted, confused, … I don’t know anything about being stuck under a bed. I’ve recently learned that step siblings is a big genre of porn. Is the bed thing from that?

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    Trying to sustain a long distance relationship whilst her husband, my ex-friend, was trying to impose his insecurities on us. My husband was indifferent to all this and my energy was being drained doing a degree and working full time.

    Damn I miss those days 🤣

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    The never ending, balancing act between everydayness, health and self-actualization.