I’m just going to be vulnerable for a minute here. I met the first person in real life who had similar server-y linux-y obsessions to me and we’d send eBay links of systems to drool over to eachother. They ended up being a terrible person but hid it from me pretty well until they couldn’t anymore and now I no longer have someone to chat with about those things.

So um, I guess I’m open for applications for the position of “nerdy friend who I nerd too hard with about network infrastructure and Linux packages” now

Edit: Autocorrect errors manually corrected

  • kool_newt@lemm.eeEnglish
    69·
    11 months ago

    Your public key is no longer in my ~/.ssh/authorized_keys :(

    That’s a serious breakup, can’t say I’ve even had anyone that close. Finding the right friends is like finding the right distro and it hurts when someone shows you an ugly part of them (ahem Red Hat).

    • TrainguyromOPEnglish
      25·
      11 months ago

      It was just access to a VPS we had a couple of minor things running on so nothing too big, but still its a very real action that says “this is over” so hitting Ctrl+O then Ctrl+X was pretty heavy

  • dirtypirate@kbin.social
    26·
    11 months ago

    I had a similar, we’d kept an IRC channel open for years, then he went off the deep end with conspiracies and I cut contact. I miss my friend but that friend was a chill software geek, not the rage addicted lunatic who took his place.

    • TrainguyromOP
      7·
      11 months ago

      I recently went back to college and got a network engineer degree then stumbled into a super chill Origami admin role. I swear it’s the middle management IT without actually managing anyone. I sit in meetings, reset passwords and occasionally make changes to the production database!

      I just make sure to tinker on the side to keep myself sane and keep the skills sharp. I want to get more than a random old laptop running docker going (there’s some fun stuff I could do with routing in that I really want to play with sometime) but I’ve got grownup responsibilities to catch up with that I neglected while returning to college before I can do that

        • TrainguyromOP
          6·
          11 months ago

          So with the way my house is laid out it and the difficulty in running network cables it would really make sense to put the server rack in the spider-filled basement, and a network switch on each floor. But while thinking about cost effective ways to achieve that (including use of the long distance stacking feature of the classic Brocade ICX switches or just running some of those Chinese 2.5G softrouter boxes) I keep coming back to this idea of instead setting up a BGP routed WAN or similar.

          By running redundant cables I gain resilience against the chaos I live in (multiple kids and pets plus pretty frequently reorganizing furniture to get all of us to fit comfortably in our 1200 square foot starter house) plus by using a routing protocol like BGP it should do some amount of load balancing to allow more bandwidth between clients (I find peer to peer network technologies super neat so i love experimenting with them) but the thought also comes to use those Microtik router cards for even more bandwidth

          Honestly it’s a lot of ideas I’ve been bouncing around while my family spends all of my hobby money on things like mini vacations that we can all enjoy

    • grue@lemmy.ml
      3·
      11 months ago

      !selfhosted@lemmy.world is one of the biggest communities on that instance (and therefore also likely one of the biggest in the entire fediverse, since that instance is so big). In other words, I think you might be right, LOL.

  • The Cuuuuube@beehaw.orgEnglish
    16·
    11 months ago

    I don’t want access to your server but I’m more than willing to chit chat Linux and FLOSS stuff

    • ssk227@lemm.ee
      14·
      11 months ago

      i don’t want to chit chat, i just want access to his server.

      (kidding of course)

  • Finn@lemm.ee
    12·
    11 months ago

    Im sorry that this happened to you. It sucks to learn that someone isn’t who you thought they are after you trust them.

    I’m a network engineer by trade and a Linux enthusiast, and happily apply for the position 😊

    I hope that one day there will be a larger community of network engineers on Lemmy, however it seems that most did not make the migration off of that old site.

  • Nix@merv.newsEnglish
    8·
    11 months ago

    Curious about what you discovered about them and how they were hiding it

  • HousePanther@lemmy.goblackcat.comEnglish
    7·
    11 months ago

    I’d like to apply because I am always looking for someone passionate about open source, Linux, and BSD - also networks galore. I currently run my own Mastodon and Lemmy instances. Please look me up on Mastodon at HousePanther. I am sorry your friend turned out to be an asshole and did you dirty. That’s not cool at all! There are good people out there.

  • HTTP_404_NotFound@lemmyonline.com
    English
    5·
    11 months ago

    Thats a shame!

    Once upon a time, me and a few buddies had a pretty nice BGP setup going between a few sites.

    He maintained two sites, I maintained both my home network, and a cloud-based router, and had my other friend connected up.

    It was a pretty sweet setup. iBGP routing, we had a form of dynamic multipoint VPN.

    Was a fun experiment. But, good things can’t last forever. So… my network is the only piece left.

    And- I don’t trust anyone else enough to setup any access at all.

  • csm10495@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    3·
    11 months ago

    Sorry bud.

    Though this got me thinking can there be a specific message to a specific user attempting to login (and deny their login)?

  • Lettuce eat lettuce@lemmy.ml
    3·
    11 months ago

    Sorry to hear that. I’ve had a similar thing happen before, it sucks.

    I’m not super dependable tbh, but I always make an effort to communicate as much as I can with folks. Feel free to hmu on DM, we can connect on other platforms if you wanna.

    Otherwise, best of luck, you’ll find a new buddy :)