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  • porn_account@lemmynsfw.comtoSex@lemmynsfw.com•What’s the biggest thing missing from your sex life?English
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    1 year ago

    My wife and I do this and her libido is up quite a bit – there’s a few moments when she looks at me thirstily even in non sexual situations. She lkes to tease further away from the edge like you’re saying. For her personally, she can only handle one super close edge in a session because it tires her out. It’s similar to how an orgasm tires her out. But she can tease further away from the edge for at least an hour.

    YMMV though because some women say that denying their orgasm actually just kills libido. But I suspect many could possibly get something out of teasing or edging in some way.

    Also if you’re going long term, to me it feels like 3-4 weeks of teasing gets my wife to similar levels of arousal and desperation as I achieve after a couple of days. Something to think about. I don’t think it’s just a male sexuality vs female sexuality thing either, because I know there are women out there who crave sex. Probably just a lower libido thing.

    I also had some success teaching her to talk dirty to me while she’s edging. Seems like she’s starting to explore her sexuality, and she’s learning that she instantly feels wetter and feels more pleasure as soon as she says something dirty to me. But it took a long time of her feeling awkward and embarrassed to start to make those connections.

  • porn_account@lemmynsfw.comtoAsk Lemmy NSFW@lemmynsfw.com•Do you ever masturbate without reaching orgasm and still enjoy it?English
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    1 year ago

    I’m really into edging which I know isn’t exactly what you’re talking about, but I definitely understand and enjoy the experience.

    I think there’s a wide range of things that people view as different sexual experiences that are actually a lot more related than we’d like to admit. I mean edging/gooning, chastity, abstaining from masturbation (nofap?), or more light teasing or relaxed enjoyment like you’re talking about. There’s probably more similarities in what people want to get out of these experiences than there are differences.

    There can be a big difference in motivation and fantasy behind it. For example, some people want/need/enjoy femdom, or at least a fantasy of being controlled. Some people look at the orgasm in more of a “negative” light, like “I need my orgasm denied”, and really get into feeling the desperate feelings. Others, maybe more like yourself, put more emphasis in a “positive” light on the physical/psychological things that they feel, and enjoying a more gradual buildup.

    (not putting judgement with positive/negative terminology, just trying to categorize things)

    Also even people who say they’re really into “edging” don’t spend all their time at the edge, they may edge several/multiple times, but it’s too intense to hold for a long period of time and most of the session will be sort of low-key buildup.

    Ultimately though, your body doesn’t really care what reasons you’re holding back. Physically and psychologically you’ll feel more easily aroused, and interested in sex. Personally that’s what I’m going for – I love feeling almost like a horny teenager, aroused at even the slightest glimpse or thought. And I love how sensitive I become down there. But what I’m trying to say is: there isn’t really a right or wrong answer here. You’re absolutely free to enjoy or masturbate however you like, and however makes you the most happy. And there’s no rule that says that you must orgasm or not.

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