• AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        I never know if i should be more repulsed by the sheer amount of transphobia in that kind of comments or just completely baffled by how ignorant and clueless these people are. First time i saw that in the wild, it was by some guy who thought that it’s suspicious when his replies include pronouns like, i shit you not, he / him, she / her, they / them and any / undecided. Made him think we’re Russian bots with pronouns set to shuffle. Like mfer have you been living under a rock, there wasn’t even a single neopronoun or she / it catgirl in there! Any irl trans meetup i’ve even been to had a wider pronoun selection than that. When other users pressed him on that, he admitted that he had never talked to a trans person in his life, which is probably better for all the trans people he could run into.

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          When other users pressed him on that, he admitted that he had never talked to a trans person in his life, which is probably better for all the trans people he could run into.

          I don’t know. Lack of exposure to different people and cultures is often a root cause of hatred and LGBTQ+ phobia. To be clear, I’m not advocating throwing trans people at transphobes with literal or figurative catapults in order to fight transphobia. Just that ignorance and narrow world experience tends to breed such attitudes, when they aren’t adopted explicitly to try to control people.

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          in fact i did a survey of other online trans communities and we have the most trans positive admins and mods of any one group. (for example, we have 26 mods/admins patrolling the reports of /c/traa and removing transphobic content)

          at some point, ideally once we reopen registrations, i intend on getting more trans people to this platform so they can be in a nicer place free of transphobic rhetoric rather than being constantly under siege on places like reddit where mods experience burnout incredibly fast

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            That’s amazing. I don’t envy the mods for the efforts necessary to keep this space safe but really appreciate them and am glad that they are being so effective for the trans community here.

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              i pretty much just went to every trans subreddit and places like susans place and counted the number of mods and admins. nothing really got close to 26. its pretty easy to vet trans positive mods here too, if you havent caught a ban in 1+ years of being here odds are you arent a shithead

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          As a cis/het person close to several trans people, this is one of the top reasons that I appreciate this instance. Moderation around transphobia is not as consistent in other instances, which allows hate to extend its reach, and puts lives at greater risk.

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        I like the ones where they go looking for a fight in our instance, then use that as reason to defed lol

        I think we’ve done alright tbh

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          I would say that also sometimes folks are mistakenly thought to be picking a fight and can get a bit singed. But I can live with experiencing a little bit of hurt feelings and char (Maillard reactions produce excellent flavor) if it means that people from groups that actually face oppression are safer.

          But, I have also seen exactly what you’re mentioning. And there are some users who are absolutely obsessed with painting Hexbears as evil and requiring defederation - I blocked one from shitjustworks because I got tired of seeing their obsessive postings trying for “gotchas”.

      • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        It’s so cool being told by liberals that I’m faking my gender and politics to score political points online when I’ve spent literally years trying to avoid being online, and it’s all because I have the wrong views about zelensky-pain or something

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        even though socialism is a strong undercurrent in the trans community since stonewall, and there was even a book written about it by leslie feinberg in the 90s?

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    I was called a bigot by 7 or 8 different people because I dared to suggest that when someone finishes transitioning, they are no longer trans.

    Lol bruh that is bigoted, it reinforces the gender binary. Dude was so confident about this they responded to multiple comments with this.

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      I was called a bigot by 7 or 8 different people because I dared to suggest that when someone finishes transitioning, they are no longer trans.

      Only 7 or 8? Those are rookie numbers!

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      I say this person and yeah, this is one of the most wildly bigoted takes masquerading as pro-trans I’ve ever seen. Absolute truscum teansmedicalist garbage. Non-binary erasure. If I were of less sound mind I’d go make an account on that instance and ask if they have any clue what a gender fluid person is, or genderqueer, or asexual.

      Finish transitioning? Who even decides that? When they’re cis passing? And this person is completely unchallenged in that thread. Over here they’d be ripped apart and probably banned. Is this why these liberal shitheads think we’re so aggressive? They’re so used to spouting off transphobia and getting no pushback on it.

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    data-laughing

    people then piled on saying how I was a hypocrite and deserved violence brought against me, because violence has been done by cops agains homeless and trans people. also, that all I care about is getting brunch

  • when someone finishes transition, they are no longer trans

    For anyone who isn’t sure how to explain why this is wrong, here’s what I came up with:

    1. It’s better to think of transition progress in terms of how often you are content vs whether or not you’ve achieved some completed state.
    2. Transitioning does not retroactively fix your AGAB being wrong and all the harm that comes with that. It does not negate the experience of needing to transition in the first place.
    3. There’s a difference between being “cis-passing” in most of your interactions with cis people and being mostly-content with your transition. These stages usually happen at different times if they both happen at all and the OP’s comment feels like it’s prioritizing cis people’s perception of “passing” over trans people’s contentedness.
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    Ever wanted to be talked down to by a 14 year old alt-right sociopath who pretends to support lgbt so they can stealthily insult liberals and blame western whites for how China is?

    holy fuck I laughed out loud at this outside by myself at ten to 1am … I didnt know what hexbear was, soooo, I reported a post for saying that anyone who ever supports a democratic candidate in america needs to be hit by a truck, and that violence needs to befall them, so the mod I reported it to posted my username and announced I had reported it in a comment to that post. people then piled on saying how I was a hypocrite and deserved violence brought against me, because violence has been done by cops agains homeless and trans people. also, that all I care about is getting brunch

    lmao these people are so willfully ignorant it’s amazing.

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    Some of them are sharing their bad opinions but most are just outright lying. How shit of a person do you have to be to lie on the internet smhsmih

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        It actually maintained the original concept that working in an office sucks instead of thebus version which took about 1 season to start glorifying office work as a bunch of quirky people doing pranks on each other.

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      Funnily enough, Parks and Rec was one of my favourite shows back when I was a lib and I read a post on the subreddit about Biden being a huge creep and the show shouldn’t glamorize him

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    Uncritical support to our megabillionaire tankie overlords who are apparently PAYING Lemmy admins across the Fediverse to keep mention of our communism quiet. SHUSH EVERYONE IT’S A SECRET.

    a lot of Lemmy admins are actually on the take from dumbass tankies. Actually the two Lemmy devs are tankies too, or so the word on the street says. No one wants to even consider that, though.