Please share your favorite theories and ideas for furthering a sissy mindset in the comments :D
Here are a few of my favorite theories:
Social Milieu theory: Surrounding yourself with people who accept and promote sissification will lead you to accept it as well.
Positive Association theory: Forming positive associations with doing sissy things (for example, wearing panties while playing a favorite video game, or having positive sissy experiences in general) will promote a sissy mindset.
Self-Improvement theory: Using sissy urges to self-improve will be overall beneficial and also cause positive associations with sissification.
Moderation theory: Keeping the most intense sissy urges in check, rather than overindulging in them, will prevent purges and long-term loss of interest.
Here are some other theories I’ve found out in the wild:
Surroundings/Accessories theory: Decorating your room effeminately, or making subtle changes to your body such as painting your toenails or shaving your legs, can reinforce a sissy mindset due to your surroundings.
Habit theory: Doing an activity regularly for a certain amount of time (e.g. a month) will turn it into a habit.
Affirmations theory: Repeating a line such as “I am a sissy” will mentally reinforce whatever you are saying (or writing).
Post-Refractory theory: This idea says that continuing to engage in sissy activities after cumming will eventually lead to the loss of mental hang-ups and inhibitions.
Chastity theory: This idea says that wearing chastity or going without orgasm will lead to sissy desires. [While this is partially true, I’m not sure how sustainable it is]
Permanent Decision / Exposure theory: This idea says that undertaking some permanent decision (such as spreading images of oneself everywhere online) will lead to a “point of no return” after which one must accept oneself as a sissy. [I don’t recommend this one! I include it because many sissies seem to think it works, though the reality is far more dubious]
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Post-refractory conditioning is extremely effective imo. Particularly things like cum eating.
Ooh, that’s a good suggestion!
Yeah my mistress put a rule in place that I can never waste my cum. If I cum in her, I have to eat it out of her. If I cum on myself I have to scoop it up with my fingers and moan while I eat it all, sometimes giving myself a facial.
She wants to condition me to crave cum even when I’m in my refractory period.
I’m always curious about this sort of thing, can I ask, how did you meet and/or broach the subject of sissyhood to your mistress?
We knew each other for several years before we ever dated or had sex. When we started getting close I was in the process of recovering from a bad breakup, and she was traveling through town every so often for work. She asked if she could stay with me one time when coming though, she slept on my couch, we drank and smoked a hung out. I didn’t really think there was a chance of anything with us so I didn’t try to pursue anything.
Eventually one night we got really drunk(a whole bottle of Jameson IPA), one thing leads to another, and we had sex. Sloppy, drunk, vanilla sex.
When we initially started sleeping together I was typically the dominant partner, in fact that’s what she went for. We have a pretty extreme switch dynamic now, but for the first year or so we explored mostly her being submissive. She wanted to experience being dominated, CNC, impact play, the whole nine yards. And I performed. I made her a cumdump for me. Once, we went camping and I came in her at least 2-3 times a day for the entire trip.
All that being said when we first got together, I told her I was a switch and I had a heavy submissive streak that had been an issue with previous partners. She said she would be willing to explore it with me like I’ve done for her with all of her fantasies.
The sorta twist to the story is that hey, it turns outs that having a dominant, uncontrollably horny partner is fun to her when she wants to be used- but that’s not how she feels all the time. For her, submission is a purely sexual experience, in the moment. She loves to be pounded into sub space against her will.
For me, submission is a constant. I worship her. I adore her. I live for her. I feel the constant compulsion to serve and to please her. These traits are amplified so fucking much by chastity and orgasm control. And she loves that. She loves that her not being in the mood and leaving me denied and twitching in my cage is just… How it works if that’s what she wants.
Truthfully we’re still exploring this dynamic. I’ve been posting about it pretty regularly since I’ve been locked in indefinite chastity, so keep an eye out for updates lol.
Wow, thanks for sharing! I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship like yours and I learned a lot. I’m guessing you dom on occasion now, probably when she requests it. I’m really happy for you two that you were each aware of how much time you wanted to spend in the sub role, which was very different, and that you found a dynamic that works so well for you. Your devotion to each other and mutual appreciation of each other’s kinks is really lovely
Honestly she’s incredible. I’ve never been this emotionally deep in submission to someone before. I dom on occasion, but she’s encouraging me to go online and find another don that can help keep me in check(I have an ultra-high sex drive), as well as possibly dominate her/both us in the future.
I totally understand that emotional dynamic - if you are still looking, please DM me
Great post! For me, I think some theories/techniques might overlap, but it’s really helpful to articulate each dimension, like you have.
I use and am aware that I use sissy stuff to manage gender dysphoria or, as I’d put it, dysphoria related to society’s antiquated, small box, and close-minded notions about gender and sexuality that don’t work well for me. Perhaps because of that, I think unlearning toxic gender rules, misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia - that cause me to unconsciously label liking feminine and submissive things as dangerous, for example - are as or more important for me than learning to like those things per se. I don’t have to learn to like pink. I just have to (re-)learn to be comfortable with liking pink and expressing the that liking.
My 3 favourite ones from your list are probably self-improvement, affirmations, and moderation. An example I’d use is painting my toenails (during winter - I get too much enjoyment from comfortably exposing my toes in sandals most of the summer to want to paint them often). That’s a genuine self-care activity for me - I can spend 2 hours on a DIY pedi which increases my appreciation for how my feet look 500% for 2 weeks without any maintenance (and another colour coat 2-3 weeks in and that pedi will last well over a month month). It’s an affirmation, because I deeply enjoy having ‘feminine-looking’ feet. And it’s moderation from time cost and exposure risk perspectives.
I’d add self-exploration theory, by which I mean exploring the nuances of one’s sissy desires to better understand and stimulate one’s sissification and overall identify and sexuality. Going outside of one’s comfort zone, like making small pushes to do more sissy-like things, might be another. Last I have in mind is similar to surroundings/accessories, affirmations, and chastity. I might call it sissy reminder theory, and it has to do with salience/novelty. I wear thongs basically every day and have for years. I love wearing thongs, but I also don’t notice them - they’re just my underwear. In contrast, wearing a bra, which I don’t do as often, gives me ‘sissy reminders’. Being caged or plugged out in public is good too
