Have you asked yourself this question? How do you answer today? Does/has your answer change(d)?

  • K.K.@lemmynsfw.com
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    11 months ago

    I’ll say it nice and simply: both. I’m a simple pansexual who likes a variety of sexual experiences.

    • 3hrtd@lemmynsfw.com
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      11 months ago

      This is me too. I want to be turned on by her, but I want to look at myself in the mirror and see her looking right back at me.

      • K.K.@lemmynsfw.com
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        11 months ago

        Glad you were able to find you way to happiness <3

        I definitely get frustrated on occasion at some of the more extreme Sissy/CD captions/hypno/etc that goes a bit too far away from the idea that someone can want to get fucked and also fuck someone. To each their own though, of course!

  • chloespanked@lemmynsfw.comOP
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    11 months ago

    I’ll go first ☺️ For me, this question is most relevant when I see a woman in real life who I find myself strongly attracted to some of or all of. For a while my answer’s been “unsure” or “both.” But the other day, I saw things a little differently.

    Here are the things that most often trigger those strong attractions and questions for me: being feminine in public, dresses, leggings and a nice butt, nail polish, exposed (flat/toned) tummies, nice hair, nice curves. Hearing myself read this list out, it’s seldom the ‘whole girl’ I’m attracted to.

    My insight was this: I realized that these things don’t matter too much to me in terms of selecting a long-term partner. I think some level of physical attraction to one’s partner is a good thing. But “yes/no, do I find this person physically attractive” is not the same as that strong level of physical attraction to relatively discrete feminine body parts, clothes, and behaviours I mentioned above. In fact, when it comes to longer-term partners, almost everything that’s important to me is about their character (or what’s between their ears), and these ultra-feminine things are not important.

    I think reading the gender dysphoria bible was helpful for me in realizing this, because there’s a section that talks about if you’re raised a boy then you’re most likely taught that every time you look at a girl with interest it is sexual interest. Personally, I was unaware of what a strong hold that learning/ indoctrination had on me until recently.

    I think this insight has probably made me a slightly more desirable partner for women. I know I’m attracted to women who are comfortable with their own femininity. But I don’t have any expectation that they conform to any beauty/gender standards they don’t personally see value in.