Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don’t know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I’ve been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.

What is your opinion on a woman taking a man’s beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.

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    3 months ago

    I wouldn’t consider that desperate or easy, but I’d be icked out by it. I’ll buy somebody a drink, but I don’t want to drink a stranger’s backwash.

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      3 months ago

      This helps, thank you. I can see how he would have no way of knowing that type of behavior is not the norm for me and that I’m not carrying something contagious. It’s all very ironic because I myself tend to be mindful of germs but did that on a whim. I keep wondering though, was there anything that could have been done to fix this once it happened?

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        3 months ago

        “Sorry, I was trying to flirt and I can be awkward sometimes. Can I buy you a fresh beer to make up for it and have a do-over?”