• fubo@lemmy.worldOP
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      I was thinking more in the sense of “doing something that will lead to breaking-up / divorce” and “acting as if you’re already single when you’re not”.

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          Exactly. This post is like saying men who hit their women are wannabe singles. It massively underestimates the stability of abusive relationships.

          Just because one person is abusing the other doesn’t mean the relationship is ending. It would be far less horrifying if that’s what it meant, but that is not what it means.

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    I think this is way off base. It’s easy to make yourself single.

    Cheaters either think they will get away with it, or are lying to themselves about what they are doing.

    “My partner won’t mind so much.”

    “Nothing that feels so right could be wrong.”

    “I’m not the kind of person who cheats, so considering the circumstances, this doesn’t really count.”

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      I think the joke is they want to MAKE themselves single, but also that they ACT like they are single. But yes I’d bet the average cheater is in denial about both sides of this shower thought.

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    Cheaters tend to be controlling in their relationships. They crave that control, so they don’t actually want to be single. They just want all of the power in the relationship.