I just realised that “like it’s your first time” has a positive connotation I guess, but like… motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can’t imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.

    • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Okay so instead of that, what if we add some context: I was the abused partner, only even having sex because hormones literally gave me libido. My partner took this opportunity to use me as her very own realdoll even long into my transition. There are many reasons why someone would continue to have sex despite being abused; it took me years to be able to say “no”.

      You can always just do the least charitable possible read, but that’s not very cool.

        • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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          2 months ago

          I would suggest that your transition to the sex that abused you, seems to be self abuse;

          Are you John Money, or perhaps J Michael Bailey, or maybe even Sigmund Freud? You do not know the first thing ahout me and you make this ridiculous assumption. Quick, did my transition predate or postdate the sexual abuse? When did the sexual abuse start to begin with? Who on earth are you to be psychoanalysing queer people with reductive queerphobic trash takes like this?