When you can’t get enough of that peelin’ feelin’

Wow… so my entire life. Appreciate the info.

When the fuck did that happen? That’s part of the point of a filibuster… does dude man (or dudette woman) have the fucking stones to see it through? Do they have the conviction of purpose in opposition to the motion to do what it takes to prevent it?

Well, from what you’ve told me, you’ve got about as good a chance or better as any other couple I’ve seen. Your own strength to stay by his side through this says a lot about the person you are, AND the person he is. It says you’re the kind of person who willing to fight for the important things, and he’s the kind of person worth fighting for.

I think a lot of folks don’t take the whole “in sickness and in health” part seriously. I genuinely try not to judge folks because you really never know everything that goes on inside a marriage that isn’t yours, but I have a hard time not judging when I hear of couples splitting amid physical or mental health issues. Like… that’s what the vows are for. That’s why making the commitment is important in the first place. Because shit will get hard and it will be harder for some than others. If there’s no commitment, there’s no marriage.

But one thing is for sure… while we are definitely in a really good spot now, we’re not past it and we never will be. That’s why commitment is so important. One of the things I do is stick around and that’s probably the biggest piece of what I contribute to her progress. I fuck up for sure… and some of that makes her mental health trip up. One time, I forgot to fill one of her meds that has really bad withdrawal symptoms around Christmas (and she already really doesn’t like Christmas for a lot of reasons). It was when the face tingles started that I realized she had the med in nearly a week! But I ain’t going anywhere. Doesn’t sound like you are either.

Yeah, I’ll sometimes scroll through my comments for fun and came across our little conversation again, and thought I’d check in. I couldn’t be happier to read that there’s genuine progress!

When we watch those we’ve chosen to share our lives with struggle, it’s an intense burden to bear. Especially when you often feel powerless to help. I’m a helper and a fixer. My wife struggles with a lot, and it’s been something for me to walk that journey with her. But I’ve also seen her grow and improve her mental (and physical) health and I can take pride in knowing that I was able to help in some small way. She might tell you I had more to do with it than I did, but she’s the one who put the work in. She’s also led me down my own path of mental health awareness and personal discovery. I say all that to say this… we can’t fix our partners, but we can be supportive and enabling towards them helping themselves. I loved your “ramble” because you speak your husband’s language and know how to enable that for him.

It really fills me with joy to see steps in the right direction.

Hope things are improving for you and your family.

Well, it was an admittedly flippant comment done in passing in an effort to highlight the fact that regardless of any perceived proximal effect, protesters are still part of the electorate. What’s more though, is the effect the protest has on opinions of the wider electorate, which is where I would wager we move from a protest vote and into the area where major change can occur.

Protesters vote…

I wanted to say yeah… but I couldn’t be sure. Looking on her wiki page:

In 2004 Daniels won the Best New Starlet Award from Adult Video News…

Daniels was inducted into the AVN Hall of Fame on January 18, 2014,[16] and was inducted into the XRCO Hall of Fame on April 16, 2014.

Don’t think she’d have those awards if she wasn’t pretty popular among her peers, and all of that was before the big scandal we’re seeing unfold now.

Hey… D stands for Diploma.

B stands for “Better than I thought I’d do.”

I live in the American South, and I’m happy to wear shorts outside at 10C (50 F), so long as it’s not windy…

Now, a jacket at 30C (86F)… that’s a bit warm for me…

F = C*(9/5)+32

If you don’t want the ratio, 9/5=1.8

To estimate the temperature conversion, multiply by 2 and add 32… then estimate a touch less… I eyeballed 10C to be 50ish before breaking out the calculator and finding it was 50 on the nose

I’m more fortunate than most, I’d wager, but I’ve watched several people close to me suffer in what, to me, were previously unimaginable ways.

Good luck with everything. I’m thinking of the both of you. Lots of good advice in this thread.

I have a lot of strong thoughts regarding the use of therapy. Specifically that I think everyone needs a therapist… everyone. It doesn’t matter how well things are going, and you don’t necessarily have to see them weekly or even biweekly… but someone to check in with from time to time to see how things are going. That way when a struggle does occur, you’ve got a fresh disinterested perspective from someone with the training to help process certain things that go through your mind. Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes… someone with absolutely no skin in the game who can give the painfully honest answer others might not be prepared to give.

Another suggestion is to see if he’s willing to write out his thoughts. Don’t call it journaling or keeping a diary… just writing down thoughts. It’s amazing what writing things down can do to help you process things. When my grandma passed, it was pretty devastating to me (to be clear, it was absolutely nothing like what your husband experienced). We’d been close my whole life and now more than 10 years later I still find myself blindsided by feelings of missing her. I decided to write a eulogy for her memorial service. It was immeasurably helpful for processing our relationship and what she meant to me and so many others in her life. She was pretty amazing… Maybe that’s the thing… maybe he could write a eulogy for his dad… or something like that. Idk.

It just sucks to go through life depressed and anxious. Life is too god damned short to allow your time to be hijacked by it. If he’d call a buddy to help him work on his car so it didn’t take an entire Saturday to fix, why wouldn’t he do the same to help himself not feel this way?

Good luck to the both of you.

https://www.billboard.com/music/chart-beat/donald-trump-j6-prison-choir-justice-for-all-digital-song-sales-chart-1235289593/amp/

Well, it was from around the time the song released… it unfortunately seems true. It’d be interesting if there was a way to analyze the data to see how many of the downloads were unique…

Hey… if you’re old enough to recall the movie well enough to quote it, you’re allowed to flub an obscure quote. I was asking more to check my memory more than anything else, lol.

God damnit, John Candy was such a fucking gem. Departed too soon.

Are you quoting the TV edit? I remember the quote being “… circumcise a gnat, Bug.”

Either way… hilarious movie.

I’d be down…

I reflexively read that in Dwight’s voice.

Walmart is hilariously cheaper.

Can I ask what the problem is? I was of the understanding that the problem with TikTok was that they basically lied under oath to congress and were actively sending personal user data to China. Not sure anything but an outright ban will achieve any sort of remedy.