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Cake day: August 14th, 2023

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  • Thanks, but what do I say when I first meet them? I did meet the older older one four years ago, but she may not remember much from that time, and I’d be meeting the youngest one for the first time. They are aware of me in general though so it’s not like I’m a total stranger.

    Sure, I could ask about their interests and what they did recently recently, but what after that? I’ll be living with them for a couple of weeks so I can’t ask them the same questions every day. Also I don’t want to bombard them with questions either, otherwise it’ll seem like an interview. What do I say to them when I run into them the first thing in the morning? Like I can wish them a good morning of course, but what after that? How do I pan out the conversations across day 2, day 3 etc? I don’t want to sound like a broken record and repeat the same dialogue every day.

    I’m not really good with small talk even with adults btw, but if it’s something about my work or hobbies, I can talk for ages - however I can’t really do that with the kids though.



  • But were they also not in concrete agreement when you said that you didn’t want kids? Or did they only give a vague response? Just curious what was the initial agreement exactly, and how did they changed their stance, because I’m currently on the market myself and I’ve been pretty upfront that I don’t want kids, and it’s usually my very first question before I proceed to even ask them about anything else. Those who don’t want kids are also generally upfront about it and would agree immediately, whereas others may either give a vague reply or be on the fence, or straight up say they wanted kids - all of which would be an immediate rejection from me. Unless they’re in firm agreement, I don’t proceed any further with the chat.




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    9 months ago

    Forget channels, WhatsApp itself is trash. No point talking about trashy additions to a trashy spy product.

    I just wish that people who know this, yet deliberately continue to use it, find the courage one day and say FU to Zuckerberg, and switch to alternatives.

    I know, I know, it’s not really feasible (or some other excuse) to ditch WhatsApp in countries like Brazil and India, but I don’t belive it’s a completely impossible task either.


  • Most Lemmy tech people are skewed towards FOSS, from what I’ve seen. Not that it’s a bad thing mind you.

    Linux sysadmins are just a different breed, most of their issues/discussions revolve around the choice of distro or around corporate takeovers/license changes (Terraform, LXD etc), and very rarely about actual issues (because there are rarely any issues that matter or can’t be fixed easily, if you’re doing your job right). Whereas in the Windows world we’re at the mercy of Microsoft, and often have to rely on the community coming for feedback around issues and workarounds (cause MS support is useless), or because Microsoft is bent upon taking away choice, we’ve have to rely upon the community coming up with innovative solutions for various things. So yea, I really do miss seeing those sort of discussions, as they were quite helpful for my job and gave a lot of insight on different things. Even if there were no issues, just reading about different infrastructure setups and configurations at various workplaces was quite enlightening.