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  • Sometimes your kid is doing something you feel like you should correct. Ask yourself this question.

    “Is or may this behavior cause actual harm to themselves or anyone else?”

    If the answer is no ask yourself:

    “Are you already exhausted?”

    Energy is a limited resource, even more so for a parent. You have are responsible for your child well being. That means in a time of actual crisis you need the energy to make the right decisions.

    Sometimes (definitely not always) Learn to converse your energy by looking the other way if they are not causing actual problem.

    Examples are Playing with food, coloring on papers there not supposed to color on but you didn’t still need and some forms of tantrums.


  • Don’t force yourself to smoke more unless you actually feel it improves your situation.

    I absolutely get using it for work even while such a thing is heavily looked down upon on. If not for cananbinoid medicine to make me appear normal i would have been fired a long time ago, its rare to meet someone who understands this.

    As for creative outlets, they don’t need to be huge projects that you never Finnish. Also remember that the goal is to accomplish a creation. The act of maintaining a creative process is where the health bonus i tried.

    Some personal recommendations.

    • view personal challenges as if they are puzzles. Your own behavioral tendencies as game mechanics. puzzle with your game mechanics to create a system where you get closer to succeeding the personal challenge with the least amount of effort.

    • Jack Herer is a great medicinal strain, stay away from unknown weed. Having a consistent source of the same known strains and knowing your dosage is the difference between medicinal use and drug abuse.

    • if you like good tactile feedback invest in a good keyboard that makes you want to type just for the feeling. I understand that this may be difficult for you cause you do appear to miss basically any reward feedback but the idea is to start typing down some of your ideas and fantasies as an excuse to use tockle on your keyboard.

    • If you have an interest in computers, move to linux if you havent already. You learn so much about computers in general and you have so much freedom you can design your experience to be tailored to your needs. Its a good symbiosis of technical and creative ideas.

    Video games that stimulate the creative processes: Minecraft, Rimworld, The sims, Actively modding games, like skyrim or cyberpunk.

    Regardless of if this advice is useful, I wish you the best. Its rare to meet someone who’s challenges hit so close to home, even in autistic circles.


  • Fellow autist here.

    I have had a theory for many years that part of my autism is related to a unbalanced endocannabinoid system where i do not make enough dopamine as part of the natural reward process.

    I bet you already tried full spectrum cannabinoid oil containing both cbd and thc. But if not i highly recommend it. But not to get high. I personally found a good dosage that allows me to boost the ecs the right amount to have it function more similar to others.

    I am curious to know if you ever tried dmt? Real Breakthrough does not compare to conventional psychedelics but if you already state that to much lsd ruined your (creative) right hemisphere i am not sure i can recommend it.

    What can absolutely recommend for intrusive fantasy is recreational immersive daydreaming. I have a feeling you may already be doing this but in the form of Maladaptive daydreaming

    What i realized for me is that its all about balance in your mind. I love working with logic, structure and math and general very left hemisphere stuff. But i also have a real need to stimulate my right hemisphere trough a creative process.

    If i don’t foster my creativity and ability to fantasize i become distressed and borderline psychotic making me unable to work with logic and structure.

    I always make sure i have acces to a creative outlet, be it a specific task on my job (i am fortune to have alot of freedom though) or a side hobby.

    Whenever i have time alone (which is also a need many neurodivergent people share) i tap into fantasy to simulate a world around me where i have absolutely creative control. Its also fairly useful because you can simulate situations from real life to study them up close.


  • Tech companies are richer than some entire nations.

    Data is literally the new gold and you can bet your profile is being sold and bought for all kinds of statistical analysis.

    To what areas to send flyers, what voting region to draw. From how likely you are to become a potential terrorist. If you have a pattern of consuming that can be reinforced showing an ad at the right time. Or if you have such low income and high debt they don’t need to bother except if they are a predatory money lending service, then they may give you a personal call.

    If there exists data on it then businesses are made specifically to exploit that data.

    But of course you’ll never see or hear what happens to your specific data. Your not supposed to know your being mined for profit and sold to the highest bidding manipulator.


  • I think my partner has a good dose of this. Excelled at test taking but struggles to live up to expectations post education.

    I don’t think it’s relevant to what i did, i never have issue generating novel ideal to successfully tackle a problem and i spend a fair amount on coding which requires good problem solving.

    If annoying i had a problem with understanding the default solution so i had no choice then come up with a new one using my logic. But at that point it really is just called autism.


  • Actually that is sort of what happend in the end of my school career

    I always understood the underlaying logic so i never needed to learn that. But then sin cos and tan happend and for some reason i don’t understand them.

    I have been able to memorize their formulas on multiple occasions but i start mixing them up in less then a minute every time, i swear its actually ridiculous how inept i am at memorizing and not mixing stuff up even with mnemonics.

    I had to hand in an exam with half the pages unanswered. Twice. I wad lucky the first time because the half I did was without error and worth more then 50%. The second time, not so much and i had to defend my non existent answer before a jury.

    Yesterday i learned more about algebraic topology out of curiosity, i also dabble with statistical analysis and frequently use all kinds of math in programming.

    Just a minute ago i looked for a simple explanation what sin cos tan are about and its stil the same, and i know its supposedlyJust hightail school level but i don’t understand what they are for at all it makes me nervous its my Achilles’ heel of math.



  • Because he is right wing and the current system is working in his favor.

    The worst thing that could happen to the democrats is a competent opponent. They need trump in order to win so post election you’re so burned up from worrying about hard fascism you become more docile towards the shit were left with.

    This is, i believe, why some rich fuckers donate to both sides. They cant purchase a president but they can purchase a party nominee and by making one of two choices completely unacceptable we are forced to take the alternative.


  • What do you mean with a human author? Sorry you actually lost me on this. Student logic is the skill of taking school tests right? Cause outside math i had very low grades.

    I rely on the same mathematical logic but the calculation is done intuitive, like a gut feeling. Thats not the “reverse engineering of formulas” i talked about, that i just did because school expected it of me. But it relies on this very useful ability.

    As you use math intuitively you become more intuitive at it, honing the ability. School did not provide a platform to do so while it makes you better at normal calculations as well

    The example i gave that does best illustrate it is seeing the sizes of things without having to check labels, markings or actually measure. Especially useful for domestic jobs Like hanging up a mirror on the wall. Or when visiting stores like an ikea.

    Another term I believe for it is eyeballing it. But i cant see how you think it isn’t useful outside of schools. (Pun intended)

    I have been outside school for more than 10 years. I use all kinds of mathematical principles on a day to day basis (part of how i perceive the world) but solutions requiring specific formulas pretty much never happens and when it very rarely does happen (i think i used Pythagorean once 2 years ago), i just google it.

    Oh its also super useful in video games like Minecraft where you have to do a lot of math but cant be bothered to take a calculator. But video games aint real life so it doesn’t count.


  • I have to disagree. Being able to obtain close enough accurate results without needing to calculate or measure is incredibly useful on a daily basis.

    Ever had to pick the right size drill or screwdriver bit out of a mix? Thats the kind of skill this most often relates to.

    combined with real measurement it becomes intuitive knowledge to verify my own measurements.

    In school i just had to do extra work to be able to write down a formula. I agree thats not useful but i was still practicing the same algebra to do so.

    Trying to remember the formulas from my head turned out to be literally impossible for me. I got a diagnosis post education and i may explain why i developed this ability from need to make up for my disability.





  • Find X where X is a modifier (a series of calculations) to be used with the provided numbers to end on a specific answers.

    And i often had like 3 different sets of provided numbers and answers to verify if the series of calculations are goin in the right direction. Once you have sm that answers all 3 questions you known its gold.

    Last step is restructuring the “modifier” so it actually looks like a formula.


  • Maybe reverse engineering isn’t the right term.

    Brute forcing using the provided calculator and calculated guesswork till i got something that matched one of the answers.

    I sometimes lost points for “something off in my formula” but the answer was correct so i passed overal.

    I have a nack for “visualizing” certain math allowing for calculated guesses. I had a few instances (not on a test) where i literally just told the teacher i had not the faintest clue how to tackle the solution but it just screamed “x=3” and i was kindly told “well done, but no points without formula. “