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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • No one is entitled to you, to touch you, or to hurt you. Your time and compassion is a gift you choose to give to others not a thing that is ever owed.

    People can lose the privilege of access to you, and boundaries are ALWAYS okay and appropriate. Boundaries are even more okay and appropriate if you are being hurt - emotionally or physically. People repeatedly crossing your boundaries are people that are likely to continue to repeatedly cross your boundaries.

    A good partner doesn’t get mad when you go to things and have a good time. A good partner doesn’t need to convince you to stay with them, a good partner doesn’t repeatedly hurt you.

    This sounds like a person that you know is causing you harm and who is now trying to manipulate you to let them continue to have access to your or to harm you. I am sure the situation is more nuanced, and there are a lot of complicated feelings - but consider that things could escalate (and sound like they are escalating) to a point that they are hurting you FAR more or trapping you into a situation that they can prevent you from leaving. Please be careful, this sounds like a time to start considering worst-case scenarios to keep yourself from ending up in the hospital or dead. Do they have keys to your place? Do they have any weapons or access to them? Do they have access to your work? Do you have anyone to stay with for some time?

    You shared multiple examples here of finding happiness on your own, and juxtaposed those examples with sounding scared or harmed when you spend time with him. Please be safe.







  • Sending you positive thoughts. It won’t always be as bad as it is today - that’s hard to see when you’re suffering from it though.

    I hope you can catch a break, take some time to just tread water as you can.

    Lean on friends, and find anything to help keep your head above water. It’s okay to be struggling - it’s okay to be having a hard time. Look for the people who can help you get through things. It’s good to talk to people about how you are feeling.






  • In my opinion - consistency and form are the most important things.

    Do what you can do, safely and regularly - that’s the most important thing, and is more important than whatever the program thinks. Listen to your body and focus on keeping the habit.

    And seconding what was said - you do not need to go to failure. Feeling tired after or sore the next day isn’t bad, but isn’t required to be doing it right. If things feel too easy, do more reps or more resistance/weight next time





  • Oh this dude makes good motorcycle videos.

    Another unfun fact (dunno if it’s mentioned in the video) is that Teflon is a PFAS that is currently in our environment and ground water in harmful amounts, is definitely giving us cancer, and can’t be easily extracted or broken down :(

    I hope we can go back to waxed coats and boots or something, soon.

    edit:// the video does mention it. Cool video


  • Anyone can be anything, they might just be an asshole depending on who they’re giving their support to 🤷

    And, a note - everyone is political. There’s no such thing as not being political if you live in a community with other people. Trying to avoid it just means implicitly supporting the status quo, which may mean a lot or may mean nothing.

    Peter Thiel is gay man, a leading conservative, and a vile absolute slime of a human being. Absolute piece of shit. Actively using his resources to hurt people.