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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • I’ve had those depressive thoughts, I’ve fought self harm and depression. I have mostly gotten past it and during the period, I don’t think I ever saw light at the end of the tunnel.

    I’m glad she is able to get the relief she needs. I couldn’t imagine putting someone through the turmoil that I had during my lowest points. It’s sad, but it’s okay for things to be sad in life. I’m glad she is able to have frank discussions on her desires and her wellbeing. It’s going to be hard for her partner, friends, and family, but it would be so much worse and so traumatic if she didn’t have help or had to hide the desires until she took her own life regardless of the laws.



  • There is a reg key to add that disables bing search.

    What I fucking hate, is that I exclusively use the start menu to start apps I’ve installed, but typing in the name of an app doesn’t show the installed app at all, just fucking ads. They literally took away the only functionality of the start menu unless I do a very intuitive method of reverting it.



  • Almost every night now.

    I used to never dream but I would go to bed with the TV on. I wanted to switch to falling asleep to music. At some point I realized I would have nightmares whenever I slept without either. It was like my brain couldn’t handle the lack of external stimuli.

    But I wanted to dream more, so I started going to bed without it more and more often. Eventually those nightmares turned to dreams as I pushed through it. It was fantastical. Almost like hearing music for the first time after being deaf. It was a whole new world and I can’t get enough.






  • I wouldn’t, you’ll lose a lot not having it manage the disks such as using dissimilar disks for the array and having it spin down unused disks. You might be able to pass disks through so the unraid VM can manage them directly, but it might be harder than I’d personally want to deal with.

    If you aren’t running VMs much. Truenas scale I believe can do docker well. I’ve seen a lot of people put that in a VM on proxmox with disks passed through to be used as the NAS portion.


  • Leave it better than you found it.

    Goes for your home, your neighborhood, or something you’ve borrowed. It can be applied to the planet, the beach, the trail, the car, the job.

    Hell, it even goes for people. Leave them a little happier, a little wiser, a little more prosperous than before.

    Second rule, give people the benefit of the doubt and don’t attribute an action as the person. Did they cut you off on the road? They’re having a bad day and made a mistake. They’re speeding? Maybe they are on the way to see a loved one without much longer to live. Don’t call someone an asshole just because they made an asshole move. People are so much more than that one interaction with them.


  • Depression is a major issue that your wife will need to address. The haircut is probably just how it’s physically manifesting.

    This is going to be a challenge in your relationship, but get over the hair and focus on your wife’s mental health. Be there to support her and try to get to the root of the depression. That probably means therapy and possibly medication. You’ll probably want to also get couples therapy to help explore new ways that you and your wife can work together and support each other.

    You might be having issues feeling attraction because her personality is changing from her depression. It’s not just the hair, that’s just what you’re able to see and pinpoint.

    This is your opportunity to step up and take care of your wife when she needs it.







  • Is it something you can overcome? Everyone’s body is different and that’s okay. People have different preferences and incompatibilities, but is it something to break up over?

    People are making fun of you, but sexual incompatibilities are a death sentence for a relationship. If you two aren’t able to have satisfying sex for the both of you, it’s not going to work out and dragging it out will make it worse.