Oh! Absolutely!

I living in Oklahoma right now, so harassment is a daily occurrence. If I’m going to be quite honest, I agree completely. I am deeply careful about how I talk about my problems because I know that I pass so effectively and have privileged family connections that allowed me to transition earlier. Generally these concerns are saved for specific individuals who are unaffected by them, so it’s frustrating to see women post these things publicly in the same way I’d present them privately. An appropriate title might be “Feeling really dysphoric about my jawline today and need some reassurance” instead of “please tell me my chin isn’t manly 🥺”. Receiving the comments could similarly be better, with “thank you!” Instead of "idk tho… ". Though this is something I wouldn’t bring to anyone but a close friend, because I know oftentimes those insecurities are just temporary and require immense grace/caution when approached.

Well

I don’t mean this in any way to diminish or play down the experiences of others

Please don’t read this if you don’t wanna hear about the bad.

!But how easy was it to find a space that was safe? It has taken me roughly 2 years to find two people who are on board with everything, and my partners tend to get fired from their workplaces for my presence, and there are frequently straight transphobes at my workplace of effectively 99% gay customers.!<

Would I choose being trans in EVERY universe? Probably, but I wouldn’t want to live in every universe. I love y’all, I love myself, and I love being trans, but it feels like at least in certain areas, the trans experience only becomes bearably traumatic when we erase from the public eye what makes us trans. I want to be proud to be myself, for people to know and it to warm their hearts. Idk I’m a silly billy and I’m sorry for saying stuff you’ve probably heard a billion WW say

Oh absolutely
Pimps are despicable

Hi, if you’d like to ask questions I’m here.
You seem curious in other comments so I’d like to hear your thoughts.

Kinda hard to give you the full picture since I’ve never had a pimp, but I think the cognitive dissonance only really comes up when I’m talking to someone who wants to enter the industry and isn’t understanding the ramifications. Otherwise it’s kinda a “supporting each other’s prison successes” vibe since we feel trapped in the world.

What’s this?
What’s this?
I’m flying through the air!
What’s this?
There chaos everywhere!

Good thing I subbed to support the servers lol

I feel like I get this to a degree that makes me uncomfortable. When I tried dating apps, I found that the interactions were so hollow that I never felt like I could be in a relationship with that person.

This is not necessarily advice because I know how hard it can be when it comes to selecting your partner but both of my partners are trans autistic women and that has made a world of a difference.

Sometimes the better option is accepting that some neurotypical people have to work twice as hard to accommodate for some of us, and that’s something that is going to make the relationship feel lopsided imo

Maybe I just am too self conscious tho

Babe (I hope that’s okay to use)

I think that’s one of the autism things

I do that, and I gotta say it’s not worth the lack of enrichment to keep friends who aren’t at some level here to be excited with me about my special interests.

It might make sense to mask it in certain situations like with some coworkers, but you’d be doing a disservice to yourself to not surround yourself with supportive friends.

If it makes you feel better, I’m still working through my shame when it comes to this. I tend to apologize immediately after what I call a “rant” and my loved ones always reassure me that they’re here for it lol

I feel like trans people express their opinions with so many qualifiers and we still get people like this who are unwilling to listen to nuance

I-

I was about to send you paragraphs of support 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

You got me so bad

I…am not sure I’d even say “to an extent” for enbies. While the trans men I’ve interacted with have been lackluster in wielding the privilege they gain for good, the afab enbies celebrate each piece of privilege because they are few and far between, if they are extant in the first place. I am ignorant if the statistics are granular enough to tell us this info, but after Nex, I feel it is fair to say many enbies experience harassment on the same scale and pervasiveness as trans women.

Hell, some of the trans women I know are enbiephobic, so I feel like in some what it’s our job to support enbies, because it’s starting to look like “first they came for the enbies, and I said nothing, because I am not an enbie”.

I genuinely prefer enbies as queer allies out of everyone else, but I feel like that’s an attitude you’ll get generally only from younger trans women. I guess I’m just saying while if someone like me is hurt I am deeply saddened for the loss of someone I extend my love to, but when an enbie is hurt it means (at least to me) someone who I could talk to with zero mask. I really hope I’m not saying anything shitty, to either group, cuz I have identified with being nonbinary in several ways over the years so maybe that would explain my feelings of companionship

Also thank you for the support in keeping myself safe 💜

Honestly it’s no wonder everybody is homeless. I felt bad about not helping a guy home last night but I’m a woman driving alone so it was kinda like “wtf why do you think I’d feel safe doing that for any strange man”

Apologies for the non-sequeteur

I can’t imagine spending $100,000 of my hard-earned money on a poorly built car that breaks down immediately

Yeah I’d sooner lump you in with the barista considering cost of living.

This is the case. You shouldn’t have issues if you follow the instructions another comment had to replace the hotkey until

I just went for it and assumed the meta package was updated right and deleted the deprecated packages and had no issues

I mean It makes tons of fucking sense lol

I don’t feel offended that I have to be so explicit that I fight against all forms of oppression and especially racism

People of color generally have no margin for error with these things, because someone could say the exact same shit I do and then support Biden’s border policy. I don’t see myself as a “good white person” because I recognize that they don’t really exist in our everyday lives. I defer my judgement to people with different perspectives because I know I will hurt people otherwise.

Maybe you wouldn’t have as bad of an issue if every white person acted similarly, but for a lot of people I feel like those attitudes never go away, so it feels more like the preparation for the start of progress rather than an actual step forward.

I apologize if I’m overstepping or offering my opinion when it is undesired.

I saw a jumping spider while I was brushing my teeth, and I jumped back and she kinda cautiously prepared to run, so I said "Oh no I’m sorry lil spider I didn’t mean to scare you! You keep doing your thing, buddy! And she relaxed and then moved under the sink so I wouldn’t accidentally squish her while I brushed

I thought nothing of it until I saw her on my way the next day, and I said “Hi!” And waved, and she waved back lol

She waved back every time I saw her so I am pretty sure I made a friend/familiar

I hear the argument being made that companies shouldn’t be allowed to run a nuclear power plant, or any infrastructure for that matter.

I guess I kind of see it like this: I wouldn’t touch C or C++ without a 10-ft pole. Rust is my 10-ft pole.

That being said, I think python occupies a very different space from rust and allows for super rapid prototyping so I wouldn’t conflate the two

Sounds like he’s just mad something he made is being replaced with something that is better in every conceivable way

Sorry bud but most people are focusing on rust, not python, and you’ve been lapped by them several times over.