Before transitioning, I was attracted to men and women, maybe even a little biased towards men. My attraction to men sharply dropped off after I began hormone therapy and started feeling like a woman. Now I consider myself exclusively lesbian. My desire for male affection was almost entirely driven by gender dysphoria and a desire to “feel like a woman” romantically and sexually.
My pre transition attraction to women was hampered a lot by the idea that I would be a guy with a girl, and be expected to conform to heterosexual expectations for how a man should date and have sex with a woman. I never wanted to penetrate, and my fantasies about women only extended to oral sex and them penetrating me with toys. When I realized that I could be with a woman as a woman, it was an absolute game changer and I never looked back.
I’ve been on hrt for 2.5 years with good levels and I’ve never experienced the fabled girl orgasm. It definitely feels different from how it used too, but I still have the same refractory period, and the feeling is typically still pretty focused on my genitals. It might be slightly more extended through my body and last a little longer, but they also feel less intense than before. Feels more like a sidegrade than an upgrade to be honest.