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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Legitimate-Echo2738 on 2023-10-07 03:48:58.

I (33M) and my gf (32F) moved in together a couple of months ago, and everything has been good so far except for one thing. We both have to be at work at 8 - my job is less than a mile away so I get up at 7, hers is about a half-hour commute so she naturally gets up earlier.

But here’s the thing, instead of doing it the usual way, she will set her alarm for 5:30 or 5:40 and then keep hitting snooze until 6:30, or she’ll set it for 5:30 and then reset it a half-hour later, and so on.

Sometimes she’ll get up at 5:30 and lay in bed looking at news or memes or whatever on her phone, and when she does that she usually falls back asleep with no alarm set, until either I wake her up or she wakes up to my alarm in a panic. The snooze button or the reset are annoying, but this one is the worst, because when she does it, I am now automatically lying there awake until she either gets out of bed or (usually) falls back asleep so I can wake her up, because if I do try to go back to sleep, that’s in the back of my mind and I’m all restless.

Anyway, this is killing me and I am dog tired at the start of every morning and usually throughout the day. I asked her why she does it that way, and she said she was used to it from before, when she used to wake up and run or go to the gym in the morning before work. I told her, well you don’t go to the gym in the morning now, so what are you doing? All this does is wake us both up. She didn’t like that, and admittedly I may have been a little gruff because this was at the start of the morning when I was tired and at my worst. But I kind of think I’ve got a point. So AITA?