cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/17147012

"Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay."

-a 15yo autistic girl experiencing ABA therapy

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  • SavvyWolf@pawb.socialEnglish
    16·
    3 months ago

    I’ve been wondering for a while now whether loyalty to a group of people is a trait that is more commonly found in non-autistic people. Would explain so much.

    • Boomkop3English
      3·
      3 months ago

      From personal experience I’ve noticed that autistic people tend to be more loyal. But less so to caregivers who don’t care, which is too often the case

      • SavvyWolf@pawb.socialEnglish
        3·
        3 months ago

        Yeah, I more meant that if they were a caregiver themselves then they would more likely call out bad caregivers, rather than just silently accept it because they don’t want to make waves.

        • Boomkop3English
          2·
          3 months ago

          I don’t know how much that is a stronger drive to do things right, and how much that because it might be reminding some of how we were treated.

          Either way you are absolutely right

    • LwL@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      3 months ago

      There was a blogpost posted to here a while ago that looked into that and seemed to find it true. The whole tone of it felt a bit masturbatory but it was still an interesting read, I’ll see if I can find it

      Edit: I failed to find it but anyway, it’s probably the case.